We hear it all the time – live for the moment. Be happy for today. Don’t stress about tomorrow. However, if we don’t think about tomorrow, then how do we define the purpose of today? Kind of makes your head spin, right?
I didn’t realize how much of my life I had wrong. As a coach, I sometimes would lose sleep over my plan – what I wanted to do tomorrow, next week and even next year – so much so, that days would go by in a blink of an eye with all of this to-doing. Well, the question is – how much planning/doing and “to-doing” should we “do” to help us get to the next level in our lives tomorrow? When is it so much so that we are not embracing today?
Uh oh. Are we being lazy by setting tomorrow free? I think coach potatoes anonymous may have something to say about this.
Lately, I have been obsessing over the term “enough.” In my opinion, I think we are an “enough” crazed society with people I meet always wanting to be, look and have everyone always enough. Don’t you agree?
But I think we have lost our own definition of “enough” along the way. How we define our “enoughness” is different between you and me, kind of like how we define success. What I want most likely is not what you want. And, to take it a step further, when I feel fulfilled with my “enoughness” may not be at the same time you feel good. Are we trying to set goals to run from who we are today and seek more self-fulfillment? Or are we doing it to fill a void of not enough?
Today I was feeling less than centered and anxious about tomorrow – as I pay bills, make lists of stuff to do for my son’s college search while I took inventory of house upgrades that needed attention. You know the drill. This is when you start to panic when all of the things on your to do list make their way in a big fat pile to your living room floor. That being said, it still isn’t so bad and this is why.
I had to take my own inventory of “enoughness” and this is what I surmised. I have a roof over my head, some money in the bank, it is absolutely beautiful outside, I am healthy, my kids are doing great and I have a fiance that is less than thrilled with my over-worrying. That being said, where do you think my day is headed? You are right – it will be caught up in the tornado of not – enoughness and over obsessing about tomorrow. What’s the antidote – let tomorrow go – even for a little while – to embrace your enoughness of today.
I have enough. I really do. In fact, too much enough as I look around of piles of clothes on my bedroom floor, an overabundance of snacks in my pantry and ten pairs of shoes sitting on the hallway floor waiting to be put away. The only thing that I lack is the faith and the “center” so I can trust that tomorrow can take care of itself, because it always does. And you know what this is called – a little thing called faith.
For today, realize that you have made it this far. Even if you are going through a crappy time in your life, think about all the times that you made it through some dark days. Remember how you good you felt when you did and embrace that feeling right now. Sure, have a plan and set some goals to lay the foundation for a brighter future tomorrow. But use the foundation of today – the you that you are at this very moment – the be the building blocks. Because the you that you are right now – is enough.
So, I am signing off of my computer, walking past the three-foot high piles of clean clothes in my laundry baskets that have yet to be put away and headed straight for my favorite lawn chair in my backyard. It’s time to sit, think, reflect, inhale the day and let tomorrow be what it will be.
And so far, I have yet to be disappointed so I think that is good enough for now, don’t you? 
